I never really dreamed of my wedding like other girls. Maybe that is because, as was pointed out so many times during my rehearsal dinner, I was the girl that: “was never going to get married” I attribute that to my unshakable ability to live in the present. So when I was 6,8, or even 13, “never” really meant I’m not going to get married “now”. I will say, for better or worse I do always “live in the now”. And the “now” of this past weekend was wonderful. It’s just like people say – so wonderful to have all of your closest friends and family in one place. It’s very rare, and so wonderful. Here are some of my favorite moments from the weekend.
Mollie tying my bow for the rehearsal. We both worked at Disney and they had a “special” bow that had to be tied a “special” way. Mollie drove 10 hours with her husband (also David) to be there for the weekend. Her being there meant a lot.
The dinner. My sister sat to my right and David was to my left. My sister and I ordered opposite choices all down the menu so I could try all the food. (This was the first of the many selfless things she did for me all weekend). The food was amazing but it was really the people that were fantastic to be around and the toasts that were fun to listen to. It was enjoyable to hear David’s best friends tell stories about his childhood. We met when we were both 5th year seniors in college – and although I know a lot about his past, there were a few stories that I was pleasantly surprised to hear. My friends also brought up so many good stories – road trips, childhood memories, and it was great to sit and resonate on it all. I also loved the cousin song, a family tradition put on by my nine cousins which is always entertaining. They did it to the tune of the opening song from Beauty and the Beast. I was in shock and awe that they were able to stay on beat. The nine cousins, as we have gotten married (I’m the 6th) has grown bigger and bigger and is now basically a choir.
The brunch on Saturday morning was beautiful. Ladies I have known and loved my whole life were sweet enough to put it on for everyone. I adore breakfast, so they served a spread of grits, breakfast quiche, and muffins, complete with mimosas and coffee. I will admit, after planning an outside wedding and seeing the drenched ground outside my window when I woke up, I was frazzled. But once I got to the brunch, saw all these loving people and friends, I made the decision to move the wedding under the tent, and not give the weather another thought. I’m so glad I did because I was able to enjoy all the people and details that were a part of my wedding day.
my loving mother
Aunt Judy and Jenny at the Brunch Saturday morning
To list everything she did for me on my wedding day would take a year – I’ll suffice it to say she was the best Matron of Honor ever. I am lucky to have her as my sister.
Leah, my cousin, was originally one of my bridesmaids but could not make it since sweet Ann Mabry (her daughter) was born premature. However, Ann Mabry is doing better and getting stronger each day, so much so that Leah was able to come to the wedding. It was a special and touching surprise.
For the most part, I had been calm my entire wedding day. The only time I had gotten overwhelmingly nervous was the first time David and I were going to see eachother. I can’t explain why, I was just so nervous and knew that I could probably burst into tears at any moment. Once I saw him though, he calmed me. Reading his letter before the ceremony, did bring me to tears. It was the part that said he couldn’t wait to spend time together “whenever and wherever” we wanted. A three year long distance relationship is littered with that obstacle, and the thought of overcoming it and marrying him in a matter of minutes made me cry tears of joy. People have asked me what I am looking forward to most about being married and my answer was always: seeing David at the breakfast table. Just us eating breakfast – I mean, really, what could be better than that.
The pearl necklace David gave me as a wedding gift. I adore the sparkly chain and the small diamonds that line either side. They match the earrings he gave me for Christmas last year.
I looked at David all the way down the isle. I don’t think I saw one other person in the room. My dad was so steady and helpful saying “step up” when I had to walk over the dance floor. Our sermon was very special not only because of what was included, but because Richie, my now brother-in-law was the one who officiated the ceremony. It was so meaningful to have him marry David and me.
On the way back I couldn’t help but look to my right – seeing so many familiar faces of friends and loved ones, paired with walking back down the isle on David’s arm was my favorite moment of my wedding day, and one of the happiest moments of my life.
smiling faces of friends and family
the first of many dances that night
The display my sweet Aunt Susu put together of all the women in my family who have worn this wedding dress. My grandmother, Ama, bought it in the 50’s and I was the 7th girl to wear it (behind my grandmother, two aunts, two cousins, and sister). I never thought twice about finding another one. This one is all lace, with scalloped edges, beautiful detail, and so much meaning.
Rob, a lucky man at the reception